I suggested it last spring and the idea was shot down.
Then last week my older son suggested that he stop doing his homeschool lessons at home and spend his entire day at the public library doing his schoolwork. I said yes, go.
I bit my tongue and did not remind him I wanted him to do it last year and he refused.
In August and in September already the assignments I gave him were not being done at home. I found I had to assign them and constantly check or he would not do them. Check and check and check or the work would go undone. I had no confidence at first that he would do the lessons if he was halfway across town by himself. Then I wondered if he felt that just being away from old temptations like hanging out in front of the fridge pondering what to eat or getting away from the TV may help. A new environment may be just what he needs.
The plan is to spend every weekday there.
We will see how it pans out. So far week one went like this: Monday all work completed, Tuesday, 80% work completed, Wednesday and Thursday: did not go, hardly did anything at home. Friday: I said if all work for the week is not done he is grounded (no date on Saturday night with his girlfriend). He went to the library on Friday and did all the old work and 80% of the Friday's assignments. He left at closing time and came home to do more lessons. I note this is also the first week of the therapeutic level of Strattera having been reached.
Older son said that he has been around me 24/7 for sixteen years of his life and he wants independence. I understand that as both a normal teenage development thing that is healthy andgood and I also understand it from a personal level as I have blogged about this week, because I feel the same exact way.
I am enjoying my alone time with my younger son. My younger son is completely different when alone with me for homeschooling lessons. It's actually really nice.
If this pattern of success continues this will be a great last year of homeschooling my younger son and it will be a good next two years with my older. If things continue on this path I would like to see my older with his driver's license and a junker car (which he buys himself with his own earned money from a part-time job) driving himself to the library and to his community college classes. I like this idea.