Monday, October 15, 2012

...and Then a Perfect Day

Maybe the key to having things go right is to blog your dirtiest laundry.

Today I got no real complaints from either kid. They did their work. They got up to go to their co-op class and we were out the door exactly on time after they fed themselves breakfast.

There was not one single bickering moment between the brothers.

I left my fifteen year old alone in the kitchen to do 1:1 work in the other room (a break in the family plan) and it worked out great. He had his space and my younger son and I could talk without worrying we were bothering anyone. I was near my computer and we could use it for online work and we were near the printer for what had to be printed off.

I did read alouds and my younger son did independent work. We cuddled with the cats on our old living room furniture which is now in the family room. It's the comfiest seating in the house although it's a bit in need of an upholstery cleaning and the fabric is no longer in style.

I did not yell one single time and neither did the kids.

They ate all their meals and had snacks too. I didn't hear one complaint that something they felt like eating was not in the house or that food they asked be bought for them was not good enough for them.

Let's hope this keeps up.

I am trying to remain calm and not stress my kids out. However I am not letting up and am still trying to get my younger son to keep up with the workload.

Someone just left me a blog comment saying to take the year off from schoolwork and do educational and fun exploration things while also doing Scouts and sports. I don't think my husband would buy into that even if I could wrap my mind around it, although I appreciate the idea.

2 comments:

Deborah said...

Sorry, I forgot to sign my name. I think there are as many ways to homeschool as there are families...I'm glad one of your ways is working today. When my two younger kids started exerting attitude and "counterwill", I let them do as they pleased to the point that they became terrified that they would get behind, and they started demanding schoolwork. One went without math for three years, but was able to jump back in just about where she was "supposed" to be...because she had a bank account and debit card and was buying things online, and cooking, and learning various things about cars like miles per gallon: just because she wasn't studying formal math didn't make her mathematically "illiterate". (I think there have to be certain academic expectations in the household for this to work...for example my husband uses math daily in his job and talks about it at home.) It also helps to live in a remote location. My kids can't just walk out the door and find entertainment (like arcades and friends and shopping) so they have to make do with what they have, and my 14-yo has been making and mapping a trail over the weekend, although I had to stop her going there by herself because I saw that feral hogs had been rooting nearby...I go with her now because she can outrun me and if one of us gets eaten it won't be her!

I hope your success continues...as you have noted before, you have a long history of happy homeschooling, and up to now your relationship with your sons has been excellent.

Deborah

sm said...

plus, there's a big difference in the skill set an engineer needs vs someone in the music/entertainment industry.
i've followed your blog for years and i understand where you are coming from when you say you are looking for rigorous academics. not all learning is 'fun'. not all living is 'fun' and yet - as adults - we take ourselves to the dentist, scrub our toilets, and pay our taxes. and parent :) let's not forget how hard that can be sometimes! (and not something we can take a year off from doing)
as a homeschooling parent, the divide between the two 'jobs' is quite fuzzy. i know i could not let my child take a year off school without me taking a partial year off parenting