We also discussed that bad teachers at public school are left in their jobs 99% of the time due to teacher labor union rules and due to the huge bureaucracy that is government schooling. So leaving a boutique school to go to a gigantic public school practically guarantees that sub-par teachers will be presently employed there.
I have been having discussion with a mom I have known for almost four years whose older graduated from our public school and whose younger withdrew three months into ninth grade and went to this boutique private school. (The older was 2E and the school is supposedly terrible with LD students, does not follow the IEP / 504 and has no patience for ADD kids regarding executive functioning issues but those are not issues my younger son contends with. The 2E student is now at an elite college thanks to being a National Merit Scholar and despite non-stellar grades.) The younger student of theirs is very happy with this private school. He feels he is learning more there than he did at public school. He has a tutor for one subject to help him. He does not like some of the nonsense that goes on at the private school and feels the social scene is limited due to the school's tiny size, but he chooses to ignore the negatie and to just focus on the positive. He has decided to pursue a rigorous degree and is looking to take college classes over the summer to boost his learning beyond what the private school offers. I admire his dedication. He was held back a year so is sixteen in grade ten and he is more mature than many kids his age are. My point is that I keep comparing that kid's experience at the public school and trying to figure out if we really want our son in that place.
One thing is for certain, I do not want my son shifting here and there. He has tried this private school, if he leaves, he should be gone for good. Wherever he lands should be where he says. I am not of the mindset that my kids are special snowflakes that can rotate from this school to that school looking for some perfect place that fits them wonderfully because at some point in time a teen just needs to learn to thrive where they are as best they can and they need to learn to cope with problems or try to figure out how to do well with sub-optimal conditions as nothing in life is ever perfect or optimal in every area.
Honestly this week I am thinking that despite the imperfection the small private school is good enough and he should just stay there. A major tradeoff will be if he goes to the public school I worry about busywork homework keeping him busy for six or more hours a day (which will mean about four hours of sleep a night due to sport practice times) and too much memorization of fact to parrot back with less opportunity for class discussion, no debate, less speeches and less oral presentations. There is something to be said for a main reason to pick a certain school for being the one that lets teens live a life that is not sleep deprived. We are at an odd time in history where pediatricians are saying kids needs more sleep but the public schools are forcing more and more homework that does not allow that sleep to happen. Kids need a balance and their life should not be just school attendance and homework completion: they should have a few hours a day for a sport, other enriching activities or individual pursuits or just daydreaming time!