Thursday, July 09, 2009

My Older Son is Blogging Now

A year and a half ago my son started a blog. After creating three blogs he didn't want to do the writing, when he started writing drafts, so the blogs sat unused.

Last week he asked to start blogging on one of the blogs. He's posted a few entries so far.

I'm considering this a good exercise in writing composition.

I feel like an unschooling parent regarding this project because my son has resisted and we've had power struggles over formal writing composition lessons. Yet in this blogging endeavor through writing short blogs posts, in the editing process I am teaching him elements of English grammar. He's relearning and practicing capitalization at the beginning of the sentence, proper nouns versus common nouns, spacing between words and paragraphs, and all the punctuation. Dividing up text into paragraphs is being covered. Lastly, the actual writing composition, moving from a first draft which is more like free flow writing into clarifying his thoughts by adding more details so that other readers will know what he is talking about is being done. For example if he mentions Halo I remind him to tell the reader it is a video game in the beginning of the post.

My son has his own Amazon Associates account so just in case anyone buys anything through the links inside of his posts or from linking from his sidebar he'll make a small profit from the sales. I don't expect this to happen too much but just in case, I want him to make his own money rather than mix up his sales with the commissions from The Thinking Mother.

Today he asked to add a photo to his profile and he selected which picture to use.

In case you are wondering I have not given either of my children much access to the computer. Unlike other parents my husband and I have not given them free reign to fiddle with our PCs. We fear they may crash the hard drive or erase critical programs like some young children we know have done to their parent's computers. So the last thing that my son is interested in and that I'm not pushing is for lots of experimentation with designing his template or making a custom template.

He is asking for a Site Meter to track his visitors and he'd like a world map tracking program like I use.

I am thrilled that he wants to blog and write in this way.

He was funny when he said, "Does writing for the blog count as writing composition for homeschooling?" I said yes. I had told him that in the upcoming year a major goal is for him to do regular writing composition and to really get to a point where he feels more comfortable with creating written pieces (handwritten or on the computer, I don't care which, I care about the composition process itself).

Let's hope his enthusiasm continues!

Privacy Issues

In case you are wondering my son is not using his real first name or last name. We do not reveal the town we reside in. He uses a pen name. He does not have the password for his account. I have to log in to Blogger for him. All his comments are on moderation so I will be the one to see them and approve or deny them in case someone is trying to contact him or if they are rude or post inappropriate content or send spam to his blog. I did not put his email contact on the blog. He actually does not use email yet but in order to create his own Blogger account he needed his own email account.

His Blog Revealed

In case you want to read his blog the one he is actively writing on is The Dragon Seeker's Reviews. His Blogger name is Dragon Seeker.

My Younger Son

Now my younger son wants to get in on the game. In the next two weeks I'll be spending time setting up an email with our ISP and a Blogger account for my nine year old son.

One Last Word on Non-Traditional Learning

So far this project is taking up a lot of my time! Sometimes doing things in the unschooling way can be more time intensive for the parent than simply administering a homeschool lesson.

When relying on the child's passion I think it helps for the parent to be available when the mood strikes and when the child is "on fire" to do the project. I'm trying to both be available to my son but also sometimes he must wait until I am available, sometimes he has to wait. I can't drop everything I'm doing in order to help him at the exact moment he desires. I won't go that far with child-led learning. (Such as the other night I was trying to get dinner made and things were cooking and needed immediate attention or they would have burned, so he had to wait until I was free.)

I am reminded once again that doing things "in real life" not learning always based on a lesson or using a curriculum can be more productive. I'm finding we went through many more concepts in the 45 minutes that I worked with my son this morning than a structured lesson ever would have "dumped" on the child in one sitting, yet my son was okay with that amount of new material or re-learning old concepts as he wanted the blog posts to both be published today.

It is more work for the parent sometimes. The concepts may be more erratic, not logically organized or thorough. In this way things are learned when they are needed to be learned and practiced when it comes up in real life (not in a predictable schedule). Anyhow this is what unschooling parents try to explain to non-unschoolers all the time but I think sometimes the others "just don't get it".

My Big Nose and Other Natural Disasters Book Review by ChristineMM

Title: My Big Nose and Other Natural Disasters
Author: Sydney Saltar
Genre: Young Adult Fiction ages 12-16 (Girl interest, main character girl age 17)



Summary Statement: Realistic Characters, Good Lessons Learned, Funny & Sad

Star Rating: 5 stars out of 5: “I Loved It”

**At the very end of this post is a spoiler that some parents may want to know about. Do not read the very bottom of this post if you don't want to hear a spoiler.**

Unfortunately, this book and I got off on the wrong foot. It is a shame that in the first few pages I was turned off by the main character’s complaining tone and mistook it for whining. Thus this book sat on my “to be read” pile neglected for three months! When I finally picked it up to read it I was surprised at my initial impression. I grew to understand the main character more deeply and I realized she was shallow as than her complaints about her life and about the appearance of her nose first implied.

I wound up being glued to the book. It was funny and later, sad. I started it in the afternoon and in between doing other things, had to find out what happened so stayed up until two in the morning to finish it off! For me it was a page-turner.

I quickly grew to like the main character as to me she is a very real girl. She and her friends reminded me in some ways of my friends and me as teenagers (despite me having been a teen back in the 1980s). The story focuses on the summer before their senior year of high school. Each has goals for their summer. These three close friends are imperfect, make mistakes and learn from them. Bad choices have negative consequences and in all the cases the girls learned from their errors.

At times I literally laughed out loud (when in public), which is a compliment to the author’s storytelling. I found myself thoroughly liking the main character and rooting for things to go in the right direction for her, wanting a good outcome in the end.

A deeper message in the story is to love yourself as you are and to realize that people care more about your authentic, unique self rather than liking or loving a person based on the size of their nose, which I bet you can tell based on the title of the book is the main character’s big complaint about her looks.

I also appreciated the message with multiple characters in the book deciding to not be promiscuous and to choose to remain virgins at least through the end of high school. The lessons learned when some drink too much alcohol (as underage minors) are clearly stated and it is not glamorized. The mother's constant attempts to clim the social ladder in town are clearly negative and the topic is handled well in the end. These messages are a wonderful antidote to the many young adult fiction books presently on the market for girls that focus on external appearances, designer clothing, having a social life filled with promiscuous sex, alcohol consumption and sometimes drug use, and being rich as the main points to the story.

I felt these characters were very “real” and believable. I grew to like them all.

This book has many talking points and lessons to be learned, which would make a great book discussion for a mother/daughter book club.

With the publication of this book I felt there is hope for young adult fiction for girls after all. We need more books like this and less of the other type, please!



Disclosure: I received an Advance Reading Copy of this book from the Amazon Vine program. Retail value of this ARC is $0 and it cannot be resold by me for profit. I received no money in exchange for writing this review.








SPOILER for my blog readers not included in my Amazon Vine review on Amazon.com:--- some parents may want to know about: A male character winds up being gay. He is in the closet and limited kids find out. His parents do not know. I didn't mention this in my Amazon Vine review as Amazon reviewer guidelines (for both customers and Vine reviews) now prohibit spoilers in the reviews. Homosexuality in YA novels seems to be on the rise, meaning while a book's main focus is not about homosexuality or the main character is not a homosexual, but sometimes it is a topic with a minor character, as is the case in the book. If you don't want homosexuality in any book your child will read, you would want to know this. Most characters in this book are aged 17 and it is about the summer before their senior year in high school. There are no homosexual sex scenes in case you are wondering.

Wednesday, July 08, 2009

When the Whistle Blows Book Review by ChristineMM

Title: When the Whistle Blows
Author: Fran Cannon Slayton
Genre: Juvenile Fiction ages 9-12
Publication: Philomel, June 2009
ISBN: 978-0399251894 (hardcover book)



I was attracted to this book because it is a coming of age story with a teenaged boy character set around a train town in the 1940s. Both books about trains and good stories from the 1940s are not common themes for children aged 9-12. I hoped it would be a good story for my train aficionado son to enjoy reading.

The book was quite different than what I assumed, it was better than expected. But first I'll share that my almost-twelve year old son grabbed the book first and when he read the back cover he said, “This is the best idea for a story I’ve heard in a long time!” He put aside the book he was currently reading in order to read this one and he finished it over two days, riveted to it. He said it was a very good book with sadness in the end and he implored me to read it right away.

When I began reading it I was surprised by the format and the storytelling style. The format is telling one long story of what happens on All Hallows Eve, in seven stories total. So, the book is like a short story collection of one boy's life from ages 12-18. Author Fran Cannon Slayton weaves in details of what happened in the last year and more about the main character's life and of his family and the changing times so with each chapter we learn more and more about the family, the railroad, the times and how they are changing.

Secondly I was surprised at the voice of the character. I was reminded of the wonderful storytelling of my grandmother who passed away recently at age 98. I used to love hearing her old tales, rich in the language of days gone by, with local terms and old fashioned sayings. I love the way the author chose to tell this story! This storytelling style is not common in new published fiction for readers aged 9-12. I enjoyed it thoroughly.

I wondered if today's kids would like it and specifically asked my son what he thought of that method of storytelling. He said he loved it because it was different than most books he reads and that it made him feel like he was transported back in time and really helped him feel like he was in that place and in that time. You couldn't wish for much more than that in a story! (I'll note that his favorite genre is fantasy such as ERAGON and secondarily he likes fiction such as Andrew Clements, so I was happily surprised that he enjoyed this writing style which is very different from the books he usually reads.)

Two elements that I was drawn to were the very strong family bonds especially between the brothers and the boy's father (the mother is not a strong figure in the story) and the feeling of brotherhood and camaraderie between the teenaged boys and the men. These were clear in the stories about pranks with friends and dealing with an older bully, the football championship game, the men who worked on the railroad together and the adult men in the Secret Society. This is a masculine book through and through with strong men as role models. This is a book that boys should read and is one that I hope girls will enjoy as well.

As I already said my son said the book had sadness in it, and that is true. The book is emotional and I shed tears in the scenes when characters were mourning deaths of people they loved.

The book is well written and the author is an excellent storyteller. I really enjoyed this book.

I can't say much more without spoiling the story.

I was left wishing there were more books on the market like this one...

If you have a boy in your life aged 9-12 have them read this book. Actually, any aged reader with an interest in reading good storytelling or interested in tales from the 1940s or about railroading would enjoy it. It would make a great read aloud from parent to child or even grandparent to child (the grandparent may enjoy this very much also).

I hope schools and libraries purchase this book as I feel it will appeal to some readers who have trouble finding newly published fiction that they like.

Railroad and Trolley Museums as well should offer this for sale in their gift shops. Parents of train enthusiast children are always on the lookout for good books with trains in them.

This is a window into the 1940s in a time when steam trains were on the way out and diesels were coming in, so the book can be used in classrooms as an educational book as well. I can also imagine this being a summer reading program selection.

The last thing I’ll say is this book deserves to win an award. It is that good!



More Information



Official website of Fran Cannon Slayton

Fran Cannon Slayton’s blog about the road to publication

Disclosure: I received an uncorrected proof copy of this book from the author as a review copy. Retail value of this uncorrected proof is $0 and it cannot be resold for profit. I received no payment for writing this review.

Site About ADD & Also Homeschooling Science

One of the mothers who attended homeschool support group meetings that I also attended was Teresa Gallagher, who lives in Shelton Connecticut. For five years she homeschooled her son who has ADD. Teresa has a degree in environmental science as well as a passion for science.

I recall attending one meeting in which Teresa Gallagher spoke to us about teaching science in our homeschools. I found the evening enriching and informative.

Teresa Gallagher shares her thoughts about homeschooling science on this webpage of hers: Homeschool Science Suggestions.

If you are interested in ADD/ADHD, she has a larger site for that topic here.

Although Teresa Gallagher no longer homeschools, she was one of the positive supportive people in my local homeschooling community that was there to help me learn and grow. I feel that local homeschool support groups are unique. I think that every homeschooling mother's experience would be enriched if they were active in a (good, positive) homeschool support group.

Yes, the Intenet is helpful in some ways, but having contacts that you talk to face to face are different. Not every helpful person chooses to discuss things on email chat groups, not every informed person has a homeschool blog. Not everyone thrives or even likes to write enough to post emails or to write for a blog or website. To tap into some of the other minds, we have to meet those people face to face and talk to them, and to listen to what they have to say.

I hope you find something of use from Teresa Gallagher's website(s).

Tuesday, July 07, 2009

Unintentional Self-Portrait


I was doing "drive by shootings" with my camera in Provincetown, Cape Cod, Massachusetts on this rainy and chilly day.

Photo taken by ChristineMM on 7/01/09 in Cape Cod.

A Little About a Young Woman with HIV's Memoir

Tonight I was scrolling through my DVR's recorded shows, through my BookTV recordings. Due to the poor programming of the AT&T U-Verse, we have no program description for the BookTV lectures and the DVR cannot distinguish reruns. Thus, this last weekend my DVR recorded 60 lectures!

60 lectures!

I have to play each show and fast forward a bit to find what the real content of the show is.

One recording began with the end of the last lecture. It was a 20-something, beautiful African-American woman speaking with raw language. She said something like, "Any more questions? No? Buy the book. And I will sign the book. I will not sign papers or take pictures if you do not buy the book. (laughed)." I wondered who she was.

So I found in another show on the DVR, this lecture and found out she was Marvelyn Brown, author of "The Naked Truth: Young, Beautiful and HIV Positive". I watched her book lecture while knitting.



I gleaned she contracted HIV while in high school due to sexual activity with a male. She said she had it for five years before her diagnosis which was when she was a college student and very sick in ICU in the hospital due to HIV related conditions such as thrush and pneumonia.

One thing that struck me was she said she never knew straight people could get HIV from sex. She said in (public) school their sex education classes taught of "STD and HIV" so she thought HIV was not an STD. She also said she knew that homosexuals, IV drug abusers and prosititutes could get HIV but she didn't know that straight people could get it from sex. Wow. Something went very wrong in that sex ed class to not be clear that HIV can be contracted in straight couples through sex.

I found an interesting review of the book written by a mother who used parts of the book to help have discussions with her daughters. Now that is an excellent way to use a book! You can read the customer review here.

Update and Changes with My Kid's Homeschool Math Lessons

There are changes happening regarding my homeschooled children’s learning of the subject of math.

The first and most thrilling is that I am thrilled to say goodbye to Singapore Math! There are three reasons for the switch.

My younger son (age 9, grade 4) has been looking at his older brother doing Teaching Textbooks for the last year. This was our family’s first experience with Teaching Textbooks. It was also the first time using a program on the computer that teaches via lecture and moving animation. As the homeschooling mother, with Teaching Textbooks I am out of the loop completely. For the first time, last year I was not teaching my older son math. The program teaches it to my son. After a few years of trying to nudge that son to do more work independently and having him refuse he actually loved being taught by the program.

The reason I switched my older son to Teaching Textbooks math was I was telling my husband about the program during dinner last August and he said he wanted our older son to try it. I had already purchased the next level of math from the company I loved that my son also liked (Math-U-See). For the first time my husband made a curriculum decision. I said something about buying a second program for $120 was double spending and wasteful but my husband said he didn’t mind in this case as Teaching Textbooks sounded so appealing to him; he loved the idea of how the program taught.

A cool aspect to the program that my husband especially liked was that the math problems are done one at a time and the answer is put into the computer and the student gets instant feedback about whether the answer was correct or not. This prevents the student from doing a whole lesson with the wrong procedure. That is a major issue with textbook (paper) math systems that I recall as being a problem from my use of such programs in public school. I also recall doing pages of math problems and handing them in to be corrected but the teacher not handing them back for 3-4 days so that meant that al the math I did (or other kids did) was wrong for all those day’s lessons.

Another thing my husband loved was that if the child gets an answer wrong and doesn’t understand why the program will be worked out step by step on the screen for the student to observe and learn from (if the student clicks on the button so the program does so).

In the past I had made all homeschool curriculum decisions and my husband wanted no part of making any decisions about it. I am not math phobic and enjoyed math in school, finding it easy to do without much effort (except geometry which actually required effort and studying). My husband is excellent in math and due to his better education than my public school education; he was taking college classes in Calculus while still in private (parochial) high school. He took advanced math in college and loved every minute of it, Calculus being fun for him. (To explain further one downside to my own public school education was we had a new middle school with vigorous programs. I passed Algebra I in Grade 8 which had me on a track with “honors” students (now called AP classes). However the high school was not vigorous and I was told they didn’t have enough math teachers to give all 9th graders Algebra 2 who qualified for it. Because I had parents who did NOT advocate for me at all my guidance counselor plunked me in Algebra I again, repeating the whole darned thing in Grade 9. That put me in Track 2, which was not the Track 1 Honors Track, it was just the Track for college. That meant too that when it came time to take Calculus, I was “off schedule” and was told “you don’t really need it as most colleges don’t require it”. So in high school I took Algebra I, Algebra II, Geometry and Trigonometry. In case you are wondering, Track 3 in our school was for students who were D students or failing in classes who would immediately begin working for minimum wage after high school graduation in retail or a factory job, or that would attend a trade school such as to be a hairdresser or an electrician. Those kids were flagged from way back in middle school as bordering on failing and were “not smart enough for college”. (Sorry if that sounds harsh but I’m being honest and actually am holding back some of the other facts that are more harsh but are still true.)

One thing my husband wants for our sons is to not slack in math and for them to “get it” and to hopefully find it easy and not to be afraid of math. We also have our kids on a college track. So far all the jobs that our children have voiced an interest in do require a four year college degree and actually both kids are pretty sure they want to do jobs that will require higher degrees than a Bachelor’s Degree. So my job as homeschool mom is to make sure I get my kids ready for what THEY want to do with their lives.

Anyhow my point to share all that about my older son using Teaching Textbooks (TT) is that in the last couple of months my younger son has been saying he wished he could do TT too.

In the last year we have been using Singapore Math for my younger son. At this point he hates it because he feels it is too simple and too easy and that he feels “like a baby” with their easy problems and cartoon decorations in the curriculum. Because I used their placement tests as a gauge, and because I made him do that level to start with, he was basically doing math he already mastered, 90% of the time. He was learning “their way” of presenting material though. He was learning to do more in his head, more mental calculation instead of focusing on needing to do the operations on paper. So I hope it was not all for naught.

Due to the scope and sequence of Singapore Math, they teach the metric system and fractions a bit earlier than my son’s former program which was Math-U-See. So although he was in grade 3 he tested to start at Singapore Math level 2A. Last year he completed 2A, 2B, and 3A. He is bored to death.

A problem that still exists for my younger son was the thing he was stuck on learning in Math-U-See (double digit multiplication) was not yet taught in Singapore 2A, 2B, or 3A. So a year has gone by, he has done lots of math but never got to that math operation to learn it Singapore’s way. So what progress has been made? I was feeling angry about it. I’m trying to console myself by saying that three things are good. What he accomplished was: 1. Metric system learned, 2. Simple fractions learned and 3. More mental calculation of math operations was done.

After years of hearing how great Singapore Math is I had that feeling of “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” thing happening. Whenever a homeschool mom would sing the praises of Singapore Math I’d wonder if I made an error by choosing Math-U-See. I tried to console myself with the fact that because Math-U-See was working for my kids then they were just fine. Well now we’ve used Singapore Math for a year and I’m not very impressed. Sorry if that disappoints anyone. I’m entitled to my own opinions.

There are two reasons we’re doing math through the summer for the first time this year. One is that due to busy-ness and lots of winter sicknesses my kids didn’t do as much math in the last year as I had planned. Second, the busy-ness during the school year due to outside classes, events, and extra-curricular activities makes doing all the home lessons difficult. I figured that if the kids did math this summer when we had a very light schedule of outside classes and camps and such that it would take off some pressure to do math every single day in the upcoming school year during September to June.

Anyhow today I was looked again at Teaching Textbook 5’s Scope and Sequence and decided that it seems right for my younger son to use right now even though he is 9 years old and just starting fourth grade. I was going to start it in September after having him do Singapore 3B over the summer as we’re doing math lessons when home and not traveling on summer vacations. But today my son begged me to start using Teaching Textbooks 5. When I told him he could, he was shouting with joy. (I am not making this up.) So today I’ll print off my older son’s records, uninstall the program then reinstall it so that my younger son can start in on the curriculum tomorrow. (At present the program can only be used by one student at a time so the only way to wipe off the old records and to use it with a new student is to uninstall it and then reinstall it.)

One last note is that homeschooling parents often say they tweak a curriculum’s use by tailoring it to the child to sometimes skip ahead if the work is too simple. I will confess that I have taken the opposite approach which I think has bored my kids and wasted their time. (See related blog post here.) I always want to be thorough and I would worry about gaps especially where foundation-building topics like math are concerned. So when switching curriculum I have made my kids go further backwards in grade levels of math to have them re-learn and practice more concepts. This is why my son who was in sixth grade last year did Teaching Textbooks 5. Now he is officially starting grade seven but is starting Teaching Textbooks 6. Last week I blogged that I was surprised to see a lot of review in TT6 and since we are not taking the summer off there is none of the ‘forgetting over the summer’ happening.

I am proud to say that I am making myself get over this thoroughness and backtracking issue (see related blog post here). I looked at TT5 and TT6 last night and figured that I can safely skip my son ahead to Chapter 4, Lesson 22 (of 116) as all the former lessons are review, going back to whole numbers, sequence of numbers, addition, subtraction, multiplication and simple long division. Some of what is in future lessons is review but within that same lesson they go deeper or make the problems more complicated, so my son should find it all a breeze.

I anticipate that if my older son does math through the summer on days when we are home and if he does math at least three hours (three times) a week (if not four) from September-June he will finish TT6 mid-year and can move on to either TT7 (and skip the review in TT7 also) or he may do Pre-Algebra (grade 8 math).

One more thing I’ll mention is that as my older son receives therapies for his visual processing disorder (an eye tracking problem), which includes exercises to speed up the visual processing in his brain, his math speed and accuracy is improving. He is able to learn the math concepts faster and finds learning easier, he “gets it” faster. His memory is improving which helps when doing operations which have an order and multiple steps, like multiplication with double digits and with long division. He used to get fouled up with remembering which number to put where, what step was next, and other things that seemed so simple to me. Finding learning easy and being able to do work accurately and with less stress boosts his self-esteem and he is back to loving math. Hooray for not being afraid of math! Hooray for not just tolerating math but for loving it!

The very last thing I want to share is that sometimes a math curriculum can be just fine but some problem with a child happens and the child can associate negativity with that curriculum even though the real issue is something else. So sometimes a very good math program takes the fall as the scapegoat for blame as the cause of negative feelings. Sometimes switching to a new program can appeal to the child and if the unrelated issue is resolved the child may credit the success as being thanks to the new program when in fact it was a separate thing.

Looking back in hindsight, in my older son's case I feel he was struggling with math due to his undiagnosed, then later, his new diagnosis of a visual processing learning disorder. His issue was not with Math-U-See but was within his brain. Because we sought treatment and did syntonic phototherapy and later, vision exercises for vision therapy for visual processing issues, the problem seemed to start to resolve. So my son blames Math-U-See for his not "getting" the thing being taught, and I could blame myself as I administered it. My son credits Teaching Textbooks as the thing that helped him. I still hold Math-U-See in high regard and recommend it to anyone who asks me for a recommendation. In our case I feel it is my son assigning wrong blame when in other cases it seems to me a homeschooling mother is assigning wrong blame on a certain curriculum. In my case with not liking Singapore Math, I think it is due to starting off with a different curriculum and switching mid-steam. I bet that people using Singapore Math from the beginning and moving along at the child's pace would not have the same issues with it as I did. Due to the switching mid-stream, my younger son has learned to hate Singapore Math, even though the issue may not be with their whole program but due to his switching from one company's scope and sequence to another's in grade three.

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Monday, July 06, 2009

Lesson Relearned



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Last week we were going to watch fireworks. I have always wanted to photograph fireworks but never owned the proper camera equipment.

In the mid-afternoon I suddenly thought of photographing the fireworks. I now own a DSLR camera so this is the first year I could take photos that came out well.

I don't know a lot about the technical workings of my DSLR yet. I went online to find a tutorial about taking fireworks photos with a DSLR. The instructions were clear but the writer boldly stated that the only way the photos would turn out is with using a tripod and a remote shutter release cable.

I do own a tripod but had not planned on using it. I wanted to travel light.

I do not own a remote shutter release. The written instructions were clear that if you attempted to use the regular shutter release it would cause camera shake and no pictures would come out.

For a moment I contemplated stopping at the one and only camera shop in an hour's radius of my home on the way to the fireworks to buy one. I wondered if they'd have one in stock.

Then I decided that was too much work at the last minute so forget the whole idea. I'd not even bring the camera to the fireworks.

The next thing I thought of was how disappointed I was to not bother to try to take photos since I didn't own the right equipment. I thought of my favorite quote:

"It is better to have tried and failed then to have done nothing and succeeded."

I decided to play and have fun and take the photos without the tripod using the normal shutter button and see what happened.

I had fun before the fireworks began, taking photos of our family and the sights of the crowded park.

When the fireworks began I stabilized the camera's body against my leg and pressed the shutter release. Guess what? The photo came out JUST FINE.

I wanted to mainly focus on watching the fireworks not obsessing over the photos so I just pointed the camera, kept my eyes to the sky and pressed the shutter release when I saw something nice in the sky. Later I did switch the ISO from 100 to 800 then later to 1600 just to see what would happen with the different shutter speeds. I also moved the zoom lens a bit.

I had fun doing that while watching the fireworks.

Guess what? I have many very good photos of the fireworks. A lot came out great except the aim was not perfect.

The lesson that was learned was that if an expert tells you that you need A, B, and C to do a job right and you don't own B & C it is better to try with what you have and see if it works.

Another lesson learned is that the fun is in the process and sometimes just playing and having fun at the process does produce excellent results despite what the experts say will happen if you just play.

I think too many adults are way too serious about approaches to various hobbies, creative pursuits and artistic pursuits. Sometimes some people overly focus on preparing themselves with material things or never get to do certain processes as they don't own the "right" material things that someone says must be owned to do X thing. Some people get too obsessed with the material possessions part of something, they want to do a process but can't as they think they need certain things that they don't own or can't afford.

We should all try to do things with what we have. This is called "making do". While it is true one can't take digital photos if one does not own a digital camera but something like not trying to take photos of fireworks because they don't want to lug a tripod to the site, or they don't own a remote shutter release is silly.

Don't put off trying something because not every single piece of equipment is owned. Work with what you have and have fun in the creative process.

Use what you have.

Make do.

Have fun with the process.

If some of the results are good or great, then that is fantastic, a bonus!

Sometimes great things happen from a "mistake" too.

If some of the results are sub-par or garbage, who cares? The fun was in the process!

Think outside the box.

Throw caution to the wind and don't follow all the directions.

Dare to improvise.

Free yourself from other people's declarations by paving your own path.

Feel the freedom that breaking free from restrictions gives you!

Just try stuff! There is no harm in trying, in playing around with the materials you own.

Have fun!

Sunday, July 05, 2009

Son's Reaction to Next Year's Math

Last week my 11 year old was finishing up Teaching Textbooks 5.

He asked about the next level of Teaching Textbooks. I pulled it off the shelf. It was still wrapped in cellophane. We unwrapped it together. We read down the Table of Contents.

My son was deflated. He said, "This is all the same stuff I just did in Grade 5 math!"

He is right.

He was looking forward to something new.

I said they must review the easy stuff then go deeper with more difficult problems into each area.

He looked at me like I was crazy.

We will see how this goes. I wonder now if I wasted my money by purchasing this. I wonder if I should have skipped him up a grade.

Another Mom's Reaction to Saxon Math

At the homeschool park day math curriculum was being discussed.

One mom said her children do math year round. They use and love Saxon Math. She did say that one child is working two grades above his actual grade level (as defined by American schools by age). She said in the last month one child moved on to the next grade of curriculum. She said she reviewed the Saxon Math curriculum and saw that the entire FIRST THIRD of the program was review! She skipped him past that and he began 1/3 the way into the math book.

That is a perfect example of why some homeschooled kids are "working above grade level", because we can, if we want, skip all the review and move on. It works for that family to not review since they do math year-round and so the child never has that 'forgetting the math over the summer' issue that schooled kids deal with.

The other reason why so many homeschooled kids CAN be working ahead of grade level in math is that they can work at their own pace. They can speed through lessons that are easy for them and slow down for extra help only when needed. Every child does not have to wait for the majority of the class to be ready to move on like it is in school.

I have very clear memories of years of math work in my public school classrooms waiting for the kids to catch up. Waiting for the slow writers to catch up writing out the stuff the teacher made us copy off the board, and waiting while some kids asked questions as they didn't understand what was being taught.

The issue with waiting was that I waited in every class (every subject), every day of the 180 days of public school and waited grade after grade. It was like torture for me. So much waiting, all day every day was maddening for me. I came up with tactics like sneaking reading a fiction book brought from home behind the textbook. For years I wrote notes to my friends in class and we'd swap notes in the hallway. Other times we met up in the bathroom during class time to chat. I daydreamed a lot in between the work (not holding up the class in the process).

Waiting for the others is one of my most frustrating memories of my public school. I want my own kids to not have to deal with that so much until college. They do take different kinds of formal classes for homeschoolers and do Scouts and Sunday School which entails having a teacher, doing a group activity, and waiting. I just don't want them waiting every class every hour of every day right now.

Saturday, July 04, 2009

On the Fourth of July Menu

We're having really slow food on this Independence Day.

On the menu:

Recipes from The Barbeque Bible




Elizabeth Karmel's North Carolina-Style Pulled Pork
page 154

Vinegar Sauce for the pulled pork (use is optional)
page 155

rolls from a local restaurant

Hot Dogs for kids who refuse to eat pulled pork

North Carolina Style Coleslaw
page 156

Oven Roasted Red Potatoes (in olive oil, salt & pepper)

Mesclun Salad with balsalmic vinegar and olive oil

Purple Grapes

Fresh Watermelon

Then we're going out for ice cream cones at a local shop that makes their ice cream from scratch.

Dinner is with some relatives who are free and available to visit us today.

Newest Book on Right Brained Learners

I have a very visual-spatial thinker (right brained learner). My friend who also has one visual-spatial learner that she is homeschooling says I have to read this latest book by Daniel Pink.



My TBR pile is high. Some are books I agreed to review and am behind on.

Yes I would like to read this. But in the last 15 months I've been more concerned with practical ideas for homeschooling visual-spatial learners, ways I can adapt traditional learning materials to be better suited to an eleven year old. Given that a goal of our home education is to prepare both of my children for the career of their choice, I need to see that certain topics are covered in our homeschooling. When teaching materials are laid out in the opposite way, and learning doesn't happen at all, or easily, I need to adapt them in some way. Not many teaching materials are tailored to the right brained thinker.

So while this book by Daniel Pink seems interesting, I'm not sure I have time for it.

Also, to read theory and idea books, I need to be in the right frame of mind. I need to be in the mood to think about ideas. When my schedule is busy, when I'm dealing with life problems, when my brain feels like it's overflowing, I have no energy for reading theory books.

If I was feeling down about the future of my right brainer I might need to read that indeed there is a place in the world for people whose minds work in this manner. However I'm already convinced that our world needs diverse minds, not just simple differences between the concrete-sequential learners and visual spatial learners but also, the more I learn about atypical neurological brains (Asperger's and Autism Spectrum), the more I realize we very much need them too.

If you are in need of opening your mind to the idea that not everyone should strive toward the left brain model, perhaps this is the book for you. If you are feeling discouraged about dealing with your right brained child at school or in your homeschool, perhaps this book will boost you up.

The book that has helped me the most with practical applications for right brained learners is the book by Jeffrey Freed "Right Brained Children in a Left Brained World".

I have also been helped by listening to the lectures of Dianne Craft of DianneCraft.com about "Teaching the Right Brained Child". You can buy a DVD of her lectures from her website if you are unable to hear her speak live at a homeschooling conference. If you are up for some research you can also see if you can buy online, an audio recording of Craft speaking at a homeschool conference, sometimes the nonprofit homeschooling organizations offer the conference recordings for about $5 for one CD (about one hour of lecture).



If you want a brief overview of the right brained learner versus the left brained learner, read this short article and comparison list written by Linda Silverman: The Visual Spatial Learner: An Introduction.

One last thought I'd like to share is that sometimes people like to have a dialogue to tell me that they have an issue with the label of the right brained learner. The point I'm at right now is I don't feel like debating about this with anyone. I know my son's mind works differently than many other people's minds and I know, through working with him closely in our home school, that materials made for left brainers by left brainers often result in work being done and scored well but no real learning happening, the information goes in one ear and out the other. I'm not in the mood to hash out if minds are really different or about learning styles. I'm most interested in helping my son learn. He's got six years left until he's the traditional age to be sent off to college. That is not a lot of time. As his home educating mother I need to do what is right and best for him. I don't care what other people think about what I'm doing or how I'm educating my children (except if I was under scrutiny by government workers, in which case I'd want to do what I had to do to keep them off my back, like forcing him to learn certain academic topics, so we could keep homeschooling with as much freedom as possible).

Happy Independence Day!





Photos taken by ChristineMM in Connecticut on 6/27/09.

Friday, July 03, 2009

Keeping a "Books Read "Journal for Kids

This has been one of the successful attempts at homeschool record keeping that I’ve tried so I thought I’d share it with you.

This last year I tried something new. I came up with this idea myself. I wanted a nice list of books that my children had read in the year. The previous year I kept a list on paper but it was messy and kept getting lost. This last year I kept the list in a hardback book journal, in a blank book.

I had purchased the blank book ("bare book") from Miller Pads & Paper, a homeschool and art supply company. It is a sturdy hardcover book with blank pages inside. The original intent was for my children to use it for creative writing and to make their own illustrated story. We hadn’t done that so I turned it into a book journal.

The books read journal is just a list of books read. Each page is one month. I write the books in and give each a number. I write the title and author and the genre. At a glance I can see the number of books my kids read in that year to date. I divided the year by our academic year which runs July 1 to June 30, in step with schools. The fact that this is a small, real bound book means it is not easily lost.

I asked the kids to decorate the blank cover and to write in the months on the pages. Due to their ages and their stages they were not too keen on doing much decorating. (Not to sound sexist but I bet girls would have a field day with the cover decoration!) I also wrote the title of the journal on the spine so we can read it when it is on the bookshelf. As their penmanship improves and gets smaller in size I’ll have them write the books in. For now, so that I can read it and so the info can fit on the page, I’m doing the writing.

My kids like seeing all the books they read in one place. They get a feeling of accomplishment to see all that they have read. They like to add the latest book to the list immediately upon completion.

Included on this list is any book they have read cover to cover, no matter whether it was read for pleasure or as part of homeschool assignments. I also include audio books listened to and just note that for my own records, in case for some reason that is something I’d want to remember. The only other rule is it must be a book (not a magazine) and they must have read the whole book.

Over time I think this will give a snapshot of my children’s changing tastes in reading and will show their progression in reading complexity.

Last year’s book was the “bare book small” with a blank cover. I may start using the larger book because my older son was running out of room on some of his pages (using both front and back of the page). At present the small book (bare book small) costs $3.00, not an expensive item. They sell a ten pack of two different sizes for $30 . There is also a big one with 60 pages for $3.50 (Bare Book Plus).

Perhaps a nice list like this is something you'd like to do with your kids?

Note: I receive no pay for mentioning this product or this company.

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